Just When You Think You Have Life Under Control

Sorry we haven’t updated the site in quite some time, but it seemed that no one was really checking it for updates and to update on a weekly basis when there is no news becomes very difficult. 

Since it has been awhile, we actually had a few updates.  We received a referral about a month and a half ago for siblings from India.  We are not registered for India, only Taiwan, but since it was a rare and tragic scenario, they decided to contact everyone who was in the process of adopting siblings.  The referral was for four siblings, a five year old, four year old, two year old and a one year old.  We were not given too much information, but we guessed that the children must have lost their parents and family during the earth quake that occurred over a year ago.  We thought long and hard about these children, we even discussed it with our financial planner (Jen’s dad).  After days and days of discussing it, we realized that we would not be able to adopt them.  We were just not in the right place financially.   We even bought a few Mega Millions tickets in hopes of winning enough money to raise the children, but of course we didn’t win.  So as hard as it was to say no, we had to.  We can only hope that someone was able to adopt all four children so that they can stay together, especially after everything they have been through. 

So that was about a month and a half ago, then about a month ago we received word that there are two children, a seven year old girl and a six year old boy that the agency was waiting on medical records for.  They told us, just as the previous times, it would be any day as far as receiving the medical records.   Well if this process has taught us anything it is that any day means any month and that patience is something that can be learned when it has to be learned.   We are hoping that these will be our children and we thought and hoped that we would receive word around the holidays, but I guess that only happens in the sappy made for TV movies.

It has been about two years and eight months (not that we’re counting) since Jen and I began attempting to start a family and approximately a year and three months since we began the adoption process.  And with that, to everyone who said this would happen, you were right.   God really does have a sense humor.  For those of you who need to be hit with a hammer to understand the subtle hints, JEN IS PREGNANT!  We were shocked when we found out.  We know that some people may think that we will stop the adoption process since Jen is pregnant, but we won’t.  Even though we don’t know the kids yet, we already feel that they are ours.  We have also always wanted to adopt, whether we can have biological children or not.  So now the running joke is that we have outgrown our house and it only took us three months!  Well these are the things that make life fun and worth living, it’s the unexpected that keeps us guessing and the unexpected that makes us laugh, smile, cry and hope and without those emotions life becomes boring. 

We hope everyone had a great holiday season and the New Year brings a little bit of life to everyone.